Month: October 2015

are you “all in” or “all or nothing”?

for those of you who don’t know, i have the privilege of being a nutritional cleanse coach to an amazing group of people who have had some life changing breakthroughs and made some incredible strides towards long term health. i love it when a new person joins us, embraces the process whole heartedly, commits 100%, flawlessly executes the system and achieves all of their goals in a short period of time.  gotcha! who am i kidding?  that’s not how it works…ever. what i have noticed though, are a couple of trends.  i shared them with my team and i’ve decide to share them with a wider audience  because they can apply to nearly every area of life…academic pursuits, business building, diet and lifestyle changes, creating or breaking habits…..heck, even making thanksgiving dinner…you’ll see what i mean.

there seem to be 2 kinds of people: those who go “all in” and those who have an “all or nothing” mindset.

all in

to me, this is what it means to be “all in”:

1. you have a strong belief in what you’re about to do.

2. you understand the process, accept that it might be challenging, require major change and take some time, but you are willing to lean into it and keep moving forward no matter what because you believe it will be worth it for you and/or others.

3. you have patience and can embrace the journey, no matter how long it takes, while still keeping your sites on the goal. you understand that even though you may not be ready to or able to commit to the fast track plan, this doesn’t make you any less “all in”. you know you can still make consistent forward movement toward the goal.  it may start out as a shuffle, but it will evolve to baby steps, then walking, which will suddenly become jogging and ultimately you’ll be at a full sprint toward your goals.

4. you have grace with yourself and others on the journey with you, and acknowledge that there is room for failure and learning from those failures.  you accept that changing things up a bit may be necessary…for a day, for a season or perhaps, permanently, but you know quitting is not an option. EVER!

all nothing

and this is what an “all or nothing” mentality looks like:

  1. often, you don’t even take that first step because you can’t do 100% right off the bat.  you aren’t content starting off with baby steps in the right direction. you hope the time will come when you can take off at a full sprint, but it usually never does.

2. you see the potential and like what will come at the end of the journey. you don’t trust the process though. you question and dread it …especially the parts that take you out of your comfort zone. you fear it won’t go as planned.  you focus on this and it dooms you before you even begin. when things begin to challenge you, you decide that you were wrong to even try and that it isn’t for you after all so you quit.

3. you commit to doing things 100%….the fast track is the only option you are open to. you want results asap and will invest all your time, energy, resources into making it so. you jump in with both feet and grand goals. when life happens (as it tends to do) and things have to slow down or even stop momentarily, you see this as a failure, and quit.

4. you’re not open to plan b. if plan a isn’t working as expected, you’d rather admit defeat than tweak it a bit.

5.  you do not extend grace to yourself or accept balance.  you expect perfect execution and will throw in the towel if you fall short.

where in your life are you imposing an “all or nothing” mentality on yourself or someone else?  just kick it to the curb. whatever it is that you’ve been hemming and hawing about doing, DO IT!  whatever regrets you’re carrying about something you gave up on, TRY AGAIN! go “all in” with diligence, focus, determination, consistency and a crap ton of grace.

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just a girl on a journey

so, this is me, beginning yet another blog.  i rolled my eyes at myself when i first thought about it, because really….how many blogs can a girl start and ditch in one lifetime and still be taken seriously?


Young female legs walking towards the sunset on a dirt road

 but this one’s going to be different, because i’m different.  i realized recently that i would walk away from previous blogs because as i evolved and grew, i would suddenly begin to feel inauthentic writing in that space.  but not this time and i’ll tell you why.   many times i would write and share from the perspective of who i was expected to be or who others thought i was or sometimes who i was striving to be (usually based on the two previous points).  heck, i didn’t even know who i was or really what i truly thought or believed about many things…i was dabbling and searching, unloading baggage and coming to grips.  finding yourself is underrated.  it can be painful because it almost always requires you to let go of things that are comfortable and familiar, but it’s oh so worth it. i highly recommend it and believe it’s never too late in life.  so now, i will write from a place of confidence. not because i’ve figured it all out and know exactly who i am, but because i’m finally at peace with my journey, and i don’t get all discombobulated by my own growth.

 i’m anything but focused, so don’t expect a nice little topical blog. i have no idea what i’ll be writing about or how frequently…i guess just as the mood strikes or the spirit moves. but here are some things you can definitely be prepared for: i hate caps (except for emphasis), i like parenthesis…and i inappropriately and overuse ellipsis. i sometimes have a potty mouth, but i’ll try to keep that to a minimum and let it loose when it really has a strong impact, kinda like mumford (admit it, you know he has great f-bomb placement). i also think i’m funny, so laugh at me, laugh with me….just laugh.

you can also expect that i might change my mind about things that i previously held a strong opinion about. letting go and accepting that has been a huge part of my growing process as well.

well, that’s about it for my intro post….i’m just a girl on a journey, who’s more than a little bit manic…mostly organic and i enjoy writing, so….i will write.